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I'm Steffy, and I live in my favorite place on earth, Long Beach NY with my two loves & our dachshund. In this space we share our adventures around NY, cozy days at home and tons of outfits! Grab a cup of coffee and lets get to know each other!


sundaes on sunday.

life is all about changing and growing, and in the past few months i think i've grown more than in years. i went through a large chunk of my days in a dark place the past few months (if we're going to be honest). i wouldn't say i was depressed, because i am a very positive individual, but i was lost. i felt stuck. i felt like a lot of facebook friends and instagram friends and actual friends were moving forward and here i was just the same old me, posting outfit photos on my blog and living in a place i didn't really want to be. i listened to endless advice from tons of different mouths, and they all clouded my head and made things clearer and less clear and left me feeling even more lost. 

but then something changed. i started to clear my life of negativity, and i started to take more time to practice yoga, to cook and to spend time with the person who i had been neglecting most, myself. after trying to fix me, i realized a lot of other things became fixed too. for the first time in a while, i feel like i can smile and actually mean it. like i can look around and be happy with everything i have, because this is my life and it's comfortable and fulfilling and it's MINE. i wouldn't want to be anybody but me, and i wouldn't want my life any other way. i read this quote, and it helped me so much..

"The challenge, therefore, is to take pleasure in the atmosphere of growth, in the gradual process made toward a goal--- in the present." 
- Gretchen Ruben
❤ i love you guys. thank you for always being supportive.

blouse: thrifted
shirts: F21
hat: UO
sunnies: c/o LuLu*s


  1. I'm glad you have worked through your dark days! I think everyone goes through something like that at some point, especially during such a transitional period. my moneys on you, steffy!


  2. Ah such a cute outfit, I'm loving those shoes! I'm so glad you took the time to fix yourself not enough people do that and get stuck in the same rut! I love your blog so much and would have never guessed you were having a tough time but thank you for sharing with us now :)

  3. Such a pretty shoes and shorts!


  5. Love you, Steffy! We all go through negative spells in life - what's important is that we get through it and grow because of it. So proud of everything you do! xoxoxoxoxo

  6. I'm soso happy you're doing so well. Being your own best friend is step 1 - things seem to fall into place after that! I can relate to falling into ruts sometimes, and I definitely have had my share of depressed times, but the best thing to do is change yourself and your attitude - and you did exactly that. Super proud of you, tough grrrrrl!

    P.S. Your shorts are amazing.

  7. hey i really like how much you look to life in a clearer view. That's really nice to hear it from you. Keep it up. Xoxo

  8. Love the pretty pastels.

    And thank you so much for posting this, lately Ive been stuck in a rut. All of my friends are off doing so many cool things and studying abroad for the summer and Im stuck at home working 3 jobs and felt really resentful but at the same time I should be thankful I'm spending time with my family and the fact I was even able to get 1 job.

    Thanks! <3

  9. This look is so adorable, love your shorts:)<3!

  10. This look is so adorable, love your shorts:)<3!

  11. This look is so adorable, love your shorts:)<3!

  12. I'm happy you are feeling better, I feel like a lot of people go through this so it's really great that you are sharing and hopefully helping someone else get through their hard time.

    love the play on words with the title here as well :)

  13. You are awesome! I'm so glad you are feeling good and happy with yourself!(:

    BTW, I love your shorts, and your shoes are the cutest!! <3

  14. i've been a long time reader but first time commenter :) i've read once that the worst thing you can do to your psyche is compare yourself to others. and it's so true! but i've also found that most of the day when you read about successes and people's progress on blogs or social media, it only gives you one side of the story. just because they're doing amazing in one part of their life doesn't mean they have it all figured out in another part. we've all got our different paths, am i right? and i love that quote you found- gretchen is one smart lady ;)

    xo Marlen
    Messages on a Napkin

  15. I have these shorts! It hasn't been warm enough here yet to wear them though! They look lovely on you, and they're perfect with those shoes from Le Bunny Bleu! I'm so sorry you've been going through a rough patch, but it sounds like you're getting back to where you want to be. I know what it's like to feel like you're stuck in limbo, and it's very hard for me not to compare my current path to that of others'. It's a process. But it sounds like the "me" time has been great!

    xox Sammi

  16. Those shorts and matches shoes are so adorable on you, Steffy!

    I'm really sorry to hear you've been down lately, but yoga is definitely what helped me through my rough times as well :). I've been a fan of your blog for a really long time (almost since the beginning) and I would give anything to be as successful of a blogger as you! I know nothing I can say will help lift you up but just know that all of your loyal readers are truly behind you 100% and want to see you be happy.

    Hope Claude is doing okay!

    xox Lara

  17. That skirt is AMAZING!!
    you pull it off perfectly!

  18. you look so great

  19. So romantic. i love the short, specially the colors <3!


  20. This is adorable! I love your outfits. you are amazing! :D

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  22. This is the most adorable outfit I've ever seen! I love the shorts so much :)
    I never would've guessed that you were feeling lost...but I guess you wouldn't want to post about it. I'm happy you're feeling better and just remember that we're all here for you!

  23. Those shorts are basically the cutest thing I've ever seen. LOVE the colors, love the print, love the sweet silhouette. The perfect Summer weekend look - J'adore! <3

  24. Aw steffy! I know how you feel, last year I went through a phase similar, and once you de-cloud your mind from all the other voices and find your own it really is a beautiful and wonderful thing. I love this outfit, those shorts are just too cute! x

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  26. So glad things are looking up for you. I've been feeling stuck lately, so I know the feeling. Hoping for some positive change in the next few months. We'll see.

    How cute are your shorts? I mean, they're the cutest pair in the world. The fact that your shoes match them makes them even better!


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